Cultivating the inner silence is one of the best ways of conserving our energy, re-balancing our deepest being and preserving our physical, emotional and spiritual health.
The constant chatter that flows through our minds and mouths wears down our Chi and weakens us considerably. The mind rejects silence because silence is limitless, has no particular form and cannot be defined. The mind loves sounds and noise because they are similar to thoughts. They can be given a form, they can be defined, analyzed and conceptualized. The mind avoids silence, because for the ego, silence is the sound of death. However, silence is the natural state of all things, and we need to learn to respect this starting with our own inner selves. In order to walk the path of Tao, we need to embody inner silence. Taoist wise master have passed down to us a series of useful and practical pearls of advice that they discovered long ago through cultivating inner silence.
Speak only when necessary, think of what you will say before you speak, be brief and precise because every time you let a word out of your mouth you release a part of your Chi with it. This way you will learn to develop the art of speaking without losing energy. Never make promises you can not keep. Don´t complain and don´t use in your vocabulary words that project negative images, because everything that you have created with your words and the Chi they carry will manifest around you. If you have nothing good true and useful to say it´s best to stay silent and say nothing.
Learn to be like a mirror, listening and reflecting energy. The Universe itself is the best example for a mirror that Nature has offered us, because the Universe accepts unconditionally our thoughts, our feelings, our words our actions, and sends us back the reflection of our own energy in the different circumstances that present themselves in our lives. If you identify with success you will be successful; if you identify with failure you will fail. In this way we can see that the circumstances we live through are quite simply external manifestations of the content of our inner chatter. Learn to be like the Universe, listening to and reflecting energy without dense emotions and without prejudice. If we are like a mirror not prejudiced, we will learn to speak differently. If our mind is calm and silent, and we do not allow to impose its own opinions, we will avoid reactions and emotions that are over the top. This simply allows a sincere and flowing communication to exist.
Don´t take yourself too seriously, be humble, because the more superior you show yourself to feel the more intelligent and patronizing that you appear, the more you will be trapped by your own image, living in a world of tension and illusion. Be discreet, protect your private life and in this way you will free yourself of the opinions of others and will live a calmer life, becoming invisible, mysterious indefinable and unfathomable, like the Tao. Don´t compete with others. Become like the earth, that nurtures us and gives us what we need. Help others to perceive their qualities and virtues, help them shine. Competitive attitudes make the ego grow and invariably create conflict. Trust yourself maintain your inner peace, avoid responding to provocation and falling into other peoples traps.
Don´t commit to things lightheartedly. If you rush into things, without becoming filly aware of the situation, you will create problems for yourself. People do not trust those who say “yes” too easily, because they know that such a “yes” is not solid and lacks value. Take a moment of inner silence to consider everything that appears and make your decision afterwards. This way you will develop trust in yourself and your wisdom. If there is something you do not know, or if you do not have the answer to someones questions accept it and admit it. Not knowing is very uncomfortable for the ego, because it likes to know it all, to always be right and always give it´s very personal opinion.
In fact, the ego knows nothing, it just pretends to know. Avoid judging and criticizing. Tao is impartial and non-judgmental, it does not criticize people, has infinite compassion and knows duality. Every time you judge someone, all you are doing is expressing your very personal opinion, and this is a waste of energy, it is pure noise. Judging is a way to hide your own weaknesses. A wise person tolerates everything and does not say a word. Remember that everything that bothers you about others is a projection of what you have not yet resolved in yourself. Let each person solve their own problems and concentrate your energy on your own life. Deal with your own self.
Don´t defend yourself. When you try to defend yourself you are actually giving too much importance to the words of others, and you give more strength to their aggression. If you accept not to defend yourself, you are showing that you are not affected by the opinions of others, that they are merely opinions and that you do not need to convince anyone of anything in order to be happy. Inner silence makes you impassive. Regularly go on a word fast, in order to to re-educate the ego, which has the bad habbit of talking all the time. Practice the art of not speaking. Choose one day a week for example, to abstain from talking, or at least a few hours a day or whatever your schedule allows. This is an excellent exercise in order to discover and learn about the Universe of Tao, limitlessly, instead of trying to explain with words what Tao is.
Grdually you will develop the art of speaking without words and your true inner nature will take the place of your artificial personality, allowing the light of the heart and the power of the wisdom of silence to appear. Thanks to this strength you will attract upon yourself everything you need to fulfill and free yourself completely. However, you must be careful, very careful, of not letting the ego get in the way. The power will stay as long as the ego is calm and quiet.
If your ego takes over and you abuse this power, the power itself will turn into poison and your whole being will quickly become contaminated. So, become silent, cultivate your own inner power, respect the lives of others and of all that exists in the world.
Don´t try to force, manipulate or control others. Become your own master and let others be who they are or, who they are able to be. In other words live following the sacred life of Tao.
Good luck in silence!
Difficult - I know - truly this helps when I´m with David ;-)
much Love, Claudia